A good diet, regular exercise, periodic
detoxification, and plenty of pure water are all vital components in
the quest for a fit, healthy body. Making time and space for
reflection, contemplation, meditation, and relaxation lowers our stress
levels and enables our emotional processes, which aids us in our quest
for health and well-being. In addition, I would like to suggest that
the power of our thoughts plays an important role in what we see when
we look in the mirror.
Most of us have probably come across ‘#8217;The
Secret’#8217; or Abraham’#8217;s ‘#8217;Law of Attraction’#8217;. If you haven’#8217;t already, then
let me give you the basic premise: it is that we are powerful creators,
co-creators if you will, with each other and with the Divine, creators
of our lives and the world. We create our own realities. The first
level of creation is our thoughts, so that whatever we find ourselves
thinking about tends to manifest in our lives. This level of creation
is mostly unconscious. We are a culture of over-thinkers. As such, we
tend to unconsciously repeat the thoughts that we have been handed down
to us, internalizing and perpetuating the norms and implicit beliefs of
our culture. It is not a huge stretch to apply this same principal to
the creation of our bodily health. Every thought that you have when you
look in the mirror goes some way towards creating that which you see.
is a more conscious level of creation that also involves our thoughts,
and this is the level of intention. To hold an intention means to
acknowledge consciously that we desire something – in this case, a
beautiful body – and to create a space from which that might come into
being. From the space of intention we begin to affirm that which we
desire. And each affirmation is a seed from which the garden of our
heart’#8217;s desire might come into bloom.
The truth is that just as
most of us cannot imagine that we ‘#8217;deserve’#8217; to be wealthy and
successful, most of us also cannot imagine that we will ever have the
beautiful body we so desire. And so we sabotage the fulfilment of our
dreams by affirming that which we do not desire. We want a beautiful
body, but every time we look in the mirror, we focus on our flaws, our
imperfections and affirm them.
I have recently come out of a
relationship with a man that I loved very much, and found beautiful
despite his many ‘#8217;flaws’#8217;. However, he was not able to completely give
himself to me because of his reservations around not finding me
beautiful, especially my body. I struggled with this from time to time
over the course of the relationship, lost weight, and even argued with
him to defend my beauty. Eventually the relationship died, and I was
left alone with my feelings of rejection and abandonment.
things became quite clear to me as I came back to myself after our
separation. The first was that my man was not able to see my beauty
because of his own feelings of ugliness, rejection, and low
self-esteem, transferred onto me through the mechanism of projection.
The other, more profound, realization was that my man had been the
mirror – moreover the manifestation, of my own negative and critical
thoughts about my body.
Since my teenage years I had looked at my
body and found it not good enough. For me, the particular area of
disapproval and disgust was my thighs. This was a pattern I had
inherited from my mother, who has spent the whole of my life and
probably the whole of her adult life trying various diets
unsuccessfully to become thinner than she is. This is the common
experience of many women in our culture. I am here to tell you that it
doesn’#8217;t have to be this way.
As soon as I experienced the very
real feeling of rejection that was my man’#8217;s painful gift to me, I
realized that I had been rejecting myself all these years in my
judgements that my body was not good enough. In the process of this
profound discovery, I formed an intention – to recognize and celebrate
the beauty that I am, and to become the beauty that I desire. From this
intention, I began to affirm what I saw that I liked when I looked in
the mirror. I have a good, slender, strong back. My breasts are
beautiful. My curves are feminine. My legs have carried me all my life.
I began to thank my body for its gifts to me. I began to spend more
time naked in front of my full-length mirror. At first there were parts
of myself that I just couldn’#8217;t look at (oh, the cellulite on those
thighs!). In response to this I simply acknowledged the shame that I
felt when I looked at these parts of myself. Meanwhile, I looked at
other parts of myself and affirmed the beauty in those parts. Then I
began dry brushing, and imagining all the shame and rejection that I
held in my thighs – which my thighs had literally embodied – to be
draining away, cleansed with each sweep of the brush. And I can tell
you truthfully that my body began to change.
This happened very
subtly at first, but after a couple of months, I began to notice that I
actually really appreciated the form that was standing in front of me
in the mirror. This was, indeed, partly due to the fact that I had
changed my attitude and my focus. But because of that, and beyond that,
the form I saw before me had actually changed. I was more slender, more
toned, more beautiful, smoother, more in proportion. In short, I had
created the beautiful body that I desired.
I could not have done
this without regular exercise, a good diet with plenty of raw
vegetables, plenty of pure water, and periodic detoxification, but
these things had been in place off and on in my life for years. The
missing ingredient that was preventing me from truly manifesting the
body that I desired was the power of my thoughts and intention. We are
powerful creators, and as soon as we can imagine ourselves with the
body we desire, we have taken a huge leap towards actually living in
that body. Just imagine what else we could create if we put our minds
Mullin is facilitator, administrator and lead bodyworker with Karuna
Detox Retreats, the UK’#8217;s first holistic detox retreat. She is
passionate about health and well-being, joyful living, and creating
reflective spaces for people to realize their potential.
Learn more about creating the body you want on a Karuna Detox Retreat. See http://www.karunadetox.com or phone 0800 112 3033 for details.
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