Learn progressive relaxation , use google to find the technique
Use it to go at a comfortable relaxed state.
Then do some deep breathes (again use google to find deep breath technique)
Or download for free the book the Science of Breath:
http://arfalpha.com/ScienceOfBreath/ScienceOfBreath.pdfWhen you are in a very relaxed, look 15 degrees on your mind eye and mental screen.
and just pretend, she is there, ask a question and slowly wait for an answer!

Have fun !