Im attracted to sadness....

[concentration]

I hang around the internet alot and meet alot of people. The thing is.....they ALL have love problems. Where ethire they got dumped because of there love cheating on them, or they were the dumper.( Also with outher people its just plain something is wrong with them.....is this a result of sometype of power? ) It seems everyone I meet is like this.....Ethire its love or its life..
One girl I meet has it pretty tough.......shes 13 and is inlove with a 18 year old, her parents seperated of a single computer game ( the girls sister wanted the game called sims online, her mom played it, met a guy over the net, and started to cheat on her husband) . She got raped when she was 9 years old, had thoughts of suicide, her mom beats her, and she cant even see her dad. Later on the 13 year olds boyfriend has the go to the army and they soon broke up, Leaveing her in distress. She also seems like shes 19, by the way she acts, but shes 13.


Anyone have anyhelp for this?
the strange attrationc to sadness, and the girl.

[Tortue]

Well, at lot of people at this time are moving from living in their first chakra (sex, power and emotional attachment) to their heart chakra.
May be, you are one those, maybe, it is time to learn about love and compassion.
Never be sad about someone path, it is their own path, thats their play not your.
However if you react maybe it is time to open your heart center to be compassionate which mean understanding what people choose to be.
Go at that site and listen to the audio http://www.limitlessness.com/Relationships.cfm

[concentration]

Alright, thanks, and sorry about posting in the wrong fourms so many times  I gotta work on that.

[SchaOn]

Hum...

IMO... and from personal experience... it sounds like you are a very open empath... and you attract people with pain and hurt in order to "fix" their pain... though, you destroy yourself in the process. Over time, this will wear away more and more on you... eventually breaking your lower heart chakra (due to it constantly taking in the pain of other people). Your energy level depleates (b/c your higher heart is constantly pushing out love, compassion and comfort).

Now... I'm not saying that communicating with these people is a bad thing, or you shouldn't do it. I am saying, however, be careful, do it in moderation, and make sure to take time to heal yourself from their wounds.

Some great stones, if you are into crystal work, are hemitite (to help shed yourself of their negative experience), rose quartz (to help recharge your higher heart chakra), and citrine (for general energy and to help empower your self).

[concentration]

Hum...

IMO... and from personal experience... it sounds like you are a very open empath... and you attract people with pain and hurt in order to "fix" their pain... though, you destroy yourself in the process. Over time, this will wear away more and more on you... eventually breaking your lower heart chakra (due to it constantly taking in the pain of other people). Your energy level depleates (b/c your higher heart is constantly pushing out love, compassion and comfort).

Now... I'm not saying that communicating with these people is a bad thing, or you shouldn't do it. I am saying, however, be careful, do it in moderation, and make sure to take time to heal yourself from their wounds.

Some great stones, if you are into crystal work, are hemitite (to help shed yourself of their negative experience), rose quartz (to help recharge your higher heart chakra), and citrine (for general energy and to help empower your self).

Yes, your description set me perfectly. But, if I dont want to have emphaty, do I just...not do anything? And I dont get crystal works that much...

[genucla]

To have empathy is related to a 2nd chakra opening, at this level you can "read" other people's feelings and emotions, and sometimes feel them as your own. And this can be overwhealming, really. I have passed  a long time in this and it's no use. As Tortue said, you have to open the 4th chakra to be able to feel compassion. When you have your 4th chakra opened, you can distance yourself from the emotions of others and by this you can be able to help them in an efficient manner. Needless to say that many people like their misery, they love to dwell on it and are not willing to step forward and do something. They try to get attention by having others say "Oh you poor baby, you have such a hard time...". And this is not helping...

[SchaOn]

To have empathy is related to a 2nd chakra opening, ...

Empathy is actually a conjunctive gift between the Higher and Lower Heart Chakra's.... which the pair is also commonly referred to as the 4th Chakra (going from bottom to top).

Receptive Empathy (feeling another's emotions) is received by the Lower Heart...
Projective Empathy (sending your feelings to another) is sent by the Higher Heart...

Processing the pain of others, or from outside influences (like death of a loved one) happens in the Lower Heart... though, if the Higher Heart is imbalanced/disconnected, then the Lower Heart isn't able to effectively do it's job. Also, if the Ego Center is disconnected/imbalanced, you can have up/down emotional patterns, if the Sacral is disconnected/imbalanced, you can have a tougher time connect with others on a more intimate (does not have to be sexual to be intimate) level... if the throat is disconnected/imbalanced... you have a hard time voicing your emotions... if your 3rd eye is disconnected/imbalanced... you have a hard time understanding the emotions... if it's an issue with your crown... generally you feel alone and disconnected emotionally from all around you. Oh, and if the root is disconnected or imbalanced... letting go of an emotion (after you have processed through it) is greatly hindered.

Please understand, that humans are made up of more than one chakra for a reason... if you are all heart (and even if it's perfectly in-balance), and your other chakras are out of wack... you will have issues that seem to stem from the heart chakras... even though they aren't entirely.

Have a good one...

[concentration]

Yaay! Im disconnected/imbalanced in almost everything you said! 

[genucla]

You'll get over it, eventually