Energy by fantasies

[alphagirl]

Hi Tortue,I was reading some of your posts and I was impressed for this one. when you fantasy about someone you are sending your energy to that person, the person is always with you at an energy level, the other person may have enough of you because you are making that person suffocating at an energy level. The person will find an excuse to run away from you and your energy. Stop fantasying and withdraw all attention see what happens, the person will sense the absense of your energy and here the attraction begins.  you posted on july 2006.  My question is, How can I stop to fantasying, I really would like to stop sending energy to this person .  I can read any book you suggest, I speak french, english, spanish.  Thank you.

[Tortue]

Hi Alphagirl,

A lot of people need the love of someone else to feel their own self love and self worth, if this is the case here, I will suggest that you work on improving your self-love and self-worth.

Use affirmations

"I'm totally loved"

The more you have self-love the more the other people will love you, the outside love from other people will be multiplied.
Like attracts like.

There is a fictional story that explains what I m telling you , you can read it in the book called The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship (Toltec Wisdom Book)  by Don Miguel Ruiz.

If you are the kind of person who only wear beautiful clothes when you have to meet someone special, then consider to put beautiful clothes when you are alone because you are the one special in first place.
The more you treat yourself like you are the love of your life, the better you will do as far as relationship and attraction is concerned also doing so will improve your personal magnetism not only  around people but you will attract the things you want faster.

Check out this podcast http://www.kellyhowell.com/podcasts/richard_lawrence_of_the_atherius_society.html

[alphagirl]

One of things that bother me most from me is that sometimes I have this feeling to be so selfish, I like to have my own space, to be pretty only for me, me first for many things (like come back to Mexico because I wanted, not thinking so much in my family), I feel I love me a lot  sometimes. 
 Thank you for your suggestion, I think I can get this book in Spanish, and I will try also the link in  brainsync . I m just listening something from Kelly.
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