According to the Law of Attraction you attract to yourself people, events and opportunities that are vibrating at or near the frequency that you yourself vibrate at. Vibration is not an ethereal concept. One can actually feel or recognize this vibrational experience by reflecting on the emotional "weight" of the internal attitudes one carries about one's self , others, the environment, and life itself. For instance if one has a pessimistic attitude the corresponding "emotional weight" of this would feel heavy, pressing down, overwhelmed, depleting, or dragged down. In other words it would be in a "negative" direction or one of a lower vibration as one feels one's self being slowed down by such heaviness. The opposite would be true for a person who is optimistic. You will also notice that a person who is pessimistic will often draw to themselves negative experiences that reinforce their negative attitudes and vice versa. With regards to drawing one's soulmate which should inherently be a positive, uplifting or high vibration event one must first generate such a vibration within themselves. How can this be achieved?

1. Firstly, if one is single and has the attitude that that in some way reflects negatively on them then they will feel alone, unworthy, unlovable, unattractive, depressed, unmotivated, pessimistic of ever having a relationship and so on. This attitude is clearly a low vibrational state which will attract more of itself i.e. more loneliness etc. So the first thing to do is to stop and observe a) what is one feeling in the single state i.e. positive uplifting or negative weighty feelings, then b) attempt to work backwards to see what kinds of attitudes you hold that might be generating such feelings. Make a note of as many as you can.

2. Secondly such attitudes have been pre-programmed within you from earlier negative experiences that are stored as memories which you identify with as part of your life. For instance an earlier memory of rejection generates the attitude and belief that one is unatrractve and so on.As long as this identification is in place the memories will continue to support, anchor and justify the negative attitudes they generate within you. Using positive affirmations to remedy this is like clipping the leaves off a weed only to have it return the following week because the root was left in place. This is why affirmations are only temporarily effective in changing one's attitudes. So what's being said is that you must become aware of these earlier memories, distance yourself from them, and feel their toxic effects on your mind set and vibrational state.

3. Finally, it becomes imperative, once you have achieved #1 and #2 above, to then release these negative memories once and for all from your vibrational pattern. When this is done your vibrational state will rise spontaneously and you will feel uplifted, buoyant, happy, joyful, content, optimistic, energized and most importantly your intentions held as thoughts and images of you embracing your soul mate will become magnetized. This is what I have called a state of Empowered Intention which cannot be achieved simply through affirmations alone.

If it is your desire to connect with your soul mate yet you are struggling with a vibrational state that is drawing to you nothing but sadness and loneliness then you can contact me at the email address below and freely experience a remarkably powerful process called the Mind Resonance Process (MRP) which can assist in you in empowering your intentions.

Nick Arrizza MD, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator who lives in Toronto, Canada. He is also on Faculty at Akamai University in Hawaii. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process (MRP).

A 1 hour free introductory MRP telephone consultation is available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Email: drnick@telecoaching4u.com

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